Over the past week I have asked the opinion of nearly everyone I know and I think I am closer to a decision. In the mean time I have been irritating myself by going back and forth between the two.
At the beginning of my appointment at the clinic on Wednesday I was pretty sure that we were going go ahead with a Nov/Dec FET, by the end I was totally confused. The reason for my confusion was that I asked my co-coordinator if it would be okay to fly in my first trimester. This is because I have a confirmed trip to Dubai in February next year that I won’t really be able to cancel. She reckons that it is perfectly safe in a physical sense, however it may not be such a good idea mentally.
What if…..
I start bleeding before I go. I can’t cancel the trip I will have to go ahead with it.
OR
I start bleeding while I am there.
My miscarriage has left me in a very sensitive place. If I get my BFP again I’m going to want to wrap myself in cotton wool and retreat into my cave. So I’m not sure if a trip to Dubai is such a good idea when I’m in that state of mind. I am leaning towards waiting and doing transfer as soon as I get back.
I am also leaning towards this postponement because of all the stress and change I’m experiencing at the moment. I’m sure it would be better for my state of mind if I had moved office, been to the CCMA ( YES DEARS!) and stabilized the business. I’m pretty sure a BFN or miscarriage would push me over the edge if I didn’t wait out the storm.
So for now, my gut is telling me WAIT!
I know that there is never a good time, but I seriously don’t feel comfortable with doing this right now. What is a month or two?
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Honey, if your gut is saying wait, then wait. One or two months extra is not going to “kill” you. But whatever you decide you need to be sure – no regrets.
xxxx
I’m with Sam on this one, if your gut says Wait… then wait!
The one or two months may help you get through your changes for now so that you have less to worry about through your first trimester.
I’m sure those popsicles won’t mind you waiting another 2 months. You gotta go with your gut.
What you say is true and we should probably listen to our gut more. Im way too impatient but its actually only 2 months more which is nothing in the grand scheme of things. xx
You will know when you are ready – if you need to wait, then wait!!
Thinking of you.
Do what you need to do to look after yourself, physically, mentally, emotionally. This is hard enough without having extra stuff to worry about.
SIan, I’m so with you on the waiting. I understand your concerns completely having had miscarriages myself. When pregnant, all of us who suffered RPL, just want to stay at home in our safe place!
But at the end of the day you need to do what you feel is best!
xx
You need to do what you feel is right Sian. Nobody can tell you when to do your FET. An extra 2-3 months is not very long in the grand scheme of things. If you feel you can wait then I’d say go with your gut!
In the big picture a few months is a drop in the ocean. You have both waited SO LONG up to now, a little longer, you may even get a little Sag ! There is perfect timing. . .God’s timing! We wait in hope.x x