I have been thinking of starting the BCP for my FET in September instead of August.
Firstly I am pooping scared! Scared of what? Firstly scared that it won’t work and then scared that if it works we will miscarry again.
Miscarriage has certainly changed my feelings about a BFP. I’ll definitely be excited, but I have given family STRICT instruction not to pass out any happy news until we get a heartbeat.
It was just so uncomfortable to have to tell people the bad news. I felt like a moron. I know I shouldn’t feel like a moron – but I did!
It’s like “Yay, I’m pregnant!” and then “Sorry guys false alarm!”
The second reason for the postponement is the business. Boy has it been stressful. I have been marketing my ass off to make sure that next year we have some secured work. I just want that extra month to make sure that we are gonna be okay. The last thing I want is to deal with the stress of a possible bust business while I am pregnant (positive thinking).
But then on second thought I wonder if I should just go for it. Is one month really going to make a difference?
Maybe I should JUST DO IT! Like pulling off a plaster. After all the success of this FET has already been determined. Is it really going to make a difference if I wait one more month?
Advice please……
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Sian, nobody can tell you when is the right time to do this. Fertility treatment is so hard, even under the best circumstances so I’d be inclined to lean towards waiting that extra month if its going to give you a bit more peace of mind.
And I so hear you and get what you’re saying about announcing future pregnancies!
*sigh* My friend, in my opinion I think that you just have to decide on a time and then do it. After so many disappointments it’s not like we’re going to look forward to treatment and we have to just take the leap and get on with it. It will work – sooner or later.
Thinking of you.
xxx
Hey there…
Do what ever feels right for you!
Listen to your heart… though it might sound like a cliche’there is much truth to it.
Whatever decision you make will be the right one.
hugs
x
One thing I’d consider is whether pushing the FET back a month would interrupt the cycle after that (of course hoping that you don’t need any other cycles).
Many clinics in the U.S. won’t cycle anytime around Christmas, so sometimes pushing things back can mean postponing the following cycle by two months.
Otherwise, just do what you think is best. I certainly have postponed cycles for work reasons — it’s so intense to cycle that sometimes there just isn’t enough energy for cycling and for big work responsibilities.
Whatever you decide, good luck!!
Only you know when the time is right for you. You need to be at peace and try not have any doubt’s or other stresses while cycling, it’s hard enough to get through.
A miscarriage puts a whole different spin on a pg, it takes away from the joy we should experience. I hear you on the announcement thing, I will not be making any pg announcements at all, I have learned the hard way, you would think 16 weeks was safe, not.
Yip – you gotta trust yourself and go with whatever feels right for you..and if you don’t know, you hang on until you do. We all need to build up a little momentum and only you will know when you are ready to launch into the unknown yet again…to take that chance no matter what happens…and you need to be strong enough at the time to be ready. Whatever you decide, I am sending you loads of love and light and strength and positive stuff…xx