Comments on: Those baby clothes.

By: Melissa G

Melissa G — Sat, 27 Jun 2009 04:58:46 +0000

I am so very sorry for your loss. I’ve never been able to bring myself to buy any clothes. But if I did, I don’t think I would ever get rid of them. I would have bought them with the intention that they were going to be for my family. Period.

If your not sure I think you should take a little more time to think about it. Your true feelings will surface in time.

Hugs.

iclw

By: Trish

Trish — Sat, 27 Jun 2009 03:19:29 +0000

hi, I am visiting from ICLW…No. 3 to say hello and to check out your blog.
I am so sorry for your loss and this decision (s).
Heartbreaking beyond measure.
I have been there too and I honestly think keep your options open.
I gave away a few baby things and returned others to the store.
A few things I kept for a while longer.
We had boys after we lost our daughter so I knew it wasn’t so much of an issue.
I didn’t buy anything for my twins till really late just in case …
My Little Drummer Boys

By: Kami

Kami — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 18:18:11 +0000

I know I am late, but I had a couple of things intended for Ernest that LB eventually got. I like that she was using her older brother’s things.

Like you said, you will know when the time comes.

By: ryanandjoesmom

ryanandjoesmom — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 15:11:58 +0000

i still have a package of onesies that i bought for our first loss and are still in the bottom drawer. i never used them on our son as i felt they were not bought for him, but rather the baby not with us. of course my son now wears a ton of hand me downs and consignment finds, but never those onesies.

hope you get to hold your baby in your arms soon and can dress it in whatever you want too.

(((hugs)))

By: Shaz

Shaz — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 11:44:48 +0000

Hey Ginger
Sorry I only saw this posting now, I too had draws full of googies, toys, clothes etc, but at the end of the day they became such painful reminders and I felt that those goodies belonged to those babies and not to the actual living breathing baby I would eventually had so I made the decision to donate them. I no longer buy baby things and my friends and family know not to give me baby stuff either, I will buy when the time is right but not before.
(((hugs)))

By: ^WiseGuy^

^WiseGuy^ — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 08:43:40 +0000

Give them away! Don’t keep them…and I am sorry for you loss. Benjamin is a beautiful name.

Good Luck for September.

ICLW

By: dee

dee — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 08:04:21 +0000

I would donate them all and start afresh xxx

By: Invivo

Invivo — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 08:02:19 +0000

I think when the day comes, you will know, but I suspect, if I were you, I’d want to start fresh and let go of all the pain asociated with the past.

Or perhaps it would bring encouragment, remembering how you held on to a dream, suppose it’s all about what associations are the strongest.

By: babysmiling

babysmiling — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 02:34:05 +0000

I would keep them tucked away in the box to use when the baby does eventually arrive. I never bought any baby clothes for cycles, but I did make pottery using gauze pads from my first IVF cycle which my kids will someday eat and drink out of.

By: Michelle

Michelle — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 22:50:57 +0000

I’m so sorry. I think the clothes might be a reminder of your losses, but you ultimately know what’s the best answer for yourself. Keep your head up.
~Michelle (ICLW)