Right so here’s the deal.
I got my call back from the sister at my clinic. They do have a list, however it is very sparse. I am staying on the list however who knows how long it will take.
They also use two agencys/recruiters/brokers (which is the correct term?). Which I can then select a donor, but it adds about R15 000 on to the cost. So the total cost of a donor IVF is between R40 000 – R55 000. That just makes me feel sick. As firstly we have nowhere near that kind of money. And second of all, I really feel sick at the thought of it not working after spending that kind of money. I know I know…..I shouldn’t think of it that way!
So now to break the news to hubby tonight. I don’t think that he will be amused.
As a result I kind of feel irritated again! I mean…..come on! Give me a break! Send me a miracle! Just spare me more pain! But I also know that I will be strong …………………It just irritates me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Why why why why why!
So me thinks that our only option is to approach our parents. Which makes me feel even more ill!
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Aaah S! That really sucks!!!!!!!!! My first IVF with PGD cost us R45K and nearly broke my heart when it failed, so I know exactly what you’re talking about. To spend that kind of money on ONE treatment with NO guarantee is sickening.
But you know what? Your miracle is coming and I think your miracle will be that some how, some way, you’re going to find the money for that IVF and you’re going to get your BFP.
Hang in there Skattie, not going to tell you to be strong, cos u might klap me! Or I’ll klap me for saying something so meaningless….
Hi S,
Yes, I know exactly how you feel!! It is so much money and not to think of all the money we have already spent. If I knew sooner that my eggs were useless, we could have saved probably about R100 000.00!!
I also am waiting to do my donor cycle, until we have a bit more money and I feel the same way – WHAT IF IT DOESN’T WORK. I think I will give up after that, but you never know, do you!!
Just keep faith – your miracle will come – I truly believe so!!
I wish I could win the Lotto so that I could start an IVF fund for all my IF Friends!! (Mmmm maybe I should start playing the Lotto first…….)
Thinking of starting one of those sites, Please donate $1 for IVF Treatment all I need is 30 000 people to each donate a $ and the rest I’ll put into a trust for needy IF sisters!!!
My DH just says PIPE DREAMS!!!!
I feel for you, how does one just come up with that kind of money??? It’s definitely not small change!!!!
Let’s write a letter to Oprah, she’s generous and kind-hearted maybe just maybe she’ll help us???? Who’s in????
Ooi my friend! That is a lot of money, but you know what by hook or by crook you will find the money to do the treatment and I know that one should not think of the treatment not working before you start but the reality is that one does think about it…
BUT that being said hold onto that faith – you will have your baby! Somehow, and if that means approaching your folks for help then so be it… I’m sure that they will gladly help you if they have the means…
And if you ever find that money tree please can I have a seed from it too??
HUGS!
My dear dear friend, I am so sorry to hear this news and dont know what to say but i am here for you. I know i dont know the right words and i dont think there are any. But we will find a way, somehow. Hope you are okay?